The Irony of Menstruation: Vital but Impure

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“Sorry I cannot sit in the prayers, as I have my periods”

Does that sound familiar? I am sure it does!! Not surprisingly, many of us have either turned down invites for religious or related ceremonies or have had our relatives, friends and acquaintances do that, just because of the monthly menstrual cycle.

I was born in India and I also had a similar notion – I used to avoid going to temples during this phase of the month.  I don’t remember my mother ever explicitly asking us to follow this norm but I was well-aware of it- could have been through friends or overhearing someone in or outside the family. It seemed to be a norm- it was followed and accepted.

I am (generally) not a rebel and I usually choose my battles wisely. Having said that, this didn’t pose a threat to my freedom nor did it affect me emotionally. I don’t remember thinking in those terms at that age any way. However, I do reminisce one instance where I couldn’t go to a ‘Jagrata’ in the neighbourhood, an all night long Hindu ritual, in the honour of ‘Maa Durga’, where all my friends went and I missed out on the tasty ‘prasaad’. I am sure I must have questioned, “why I could not go?”, but I cannot recall the response I may have got. Continue reading

Dancing in my own Sangeet!

With just a couple of hours to go and remembering the last night before the D day.. My Sangeet Ceremony… us Punjabi’s love to have fun and be merry.. so mine was indeed ‘Sangeet with a twist’ A 3-in-1 night of Mehandi, Traditional Sangeet and a Pre-wedding Cocktail Party.. I know this is now a norm but then I am talking about 12 years ago..

My dad planned this fun night which I can never forget…. I don’t think I have ever danced that much ever in my life .. or the way I did that very night… It was a night of some serious fun.. ..

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The Final Countdown!

12 years ago, today.. it was a house full of cousins and relatives.. there was surely a buzz around.. and I could hear the wedding bells.. loud and clear!!

With 2 days to go for the ‘D day’.. the countdown was no more for days… but for the remaining hours and seconds …. for the day which would change my identity (atleast the perception of it) in a blink of an eye… from being a daughter to a Dad.. to being a wife to a man … a switch that took minutes or probably a couple of hours to complete .. a journey I was waiting to start…. Continue reading

3 Counties in 3 Days

I love traveling, exploring new places, trying out new foods and spending some quality time with family away from home and especially away from our daily routine. I have a long list of places I would love to see and hopefully I will be able to cover them in this life of mine.

My husband, who loves relaxing and spending time at home, needs a little convincing every time I want to plan a holiday. Having said that, he is an adventurous traveller- he loves edgy destinations, scenic great drives (scary at times!), trying out new cuisines. I must confess he is a more adventurous travel eater than me. He has driven me around most of England- you name it and we have seen it (I did say… ‘Most of it’… haha!). And so far our favourite English counties are Cornwall and Devon. Continue reading

Colour me ‘In’: Red is Trending!

It being the holiday season, most of you (just like me) would have been out and about looking for the ‘right’ outfit for your holidays or otherwise.

With an ‘Asian’ complexion, I am a little particular about the colors I wear. I prefer colors that accentuate my natural ‘tan’ such as white, coral, lavender (mauve as we all call it) and of course reds and pinks.

Red, the colour of love and passion is one of my favourites. A vibrant hue associated with Indian weddings, makes the Indian bride look both beautiful and attractive. It is one colour which can give you ‘the’ look that you desire- be it traditional, modern or sexy.

I think ‘Red’ or ‘Flame Red- Orange’, is an excellent colour choice especially for women like me who have a warm skin tone. It brightens it up and makes it glow.  It’s an evergreen colour which looks amazing irrespective of weather, occasion and time of the day.

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